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The Cuck Fantasy
The "nightmare" of cucking seems to be rooted in the fear of being replaced, essentially robbed, and humiliated because it involves...
thoughtful_fetishist
Mar 19, 20246 min read
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In Defense of Casual Wear in Male Bondage
I often feel like an oddball among other clothing fetishists. I'm definitely not into more fetishy clothing that involves leather, latex,...
thoughtful_fetishist
Feb 22, 202114 min read
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Why is it Flattering When Others Want Me Gagged?
Something I've been pondering a lot over the past couple of months is why it flatters me so much when a bondage buddy expresses how much...
thoughtful_fetishist
Oct 6, 202015 min read
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Why People Like Humiliation cont.: Humiliation in the Vanilla World
Several years ago, I had an online "thing" with a guy, Jason. He was well over a decade older than me and seemed to have his life pretty...
thoughtful_fetishist
Feb 5, 202019 min read
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The Value of Vulnerability, Embarrassment, and Humiliation
When I was an undergraduate, I was a teaching assistant to a new lecturer, Mr. Wyley. Mr. Wyley was in his early 30s at the time and is...
thoughtful_fetishist
Jan 21, 202014 min read
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The Powerful Role of Hand Gags in Male Bondage
When I was growing up, a scene from the 1990 IT miniseries always intrigued me. It was when “The Loser’s Club” banded together to face...
thoughtful_fetishist
Jan 5, 202018 min read
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Abduction as Romance for Women vs. Punishment for Being Desirable for Men (Dapper Gentlemen cont.)
In Pop Culture Detective’s YouTube video “Abduction as Romance,” the narrator explains how a particular trope typically plays out in...
thoughtful_fetishist
Jan 5, 202013 min read
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Dressed in Your Sunday’s Best with Nowhere to Go: Why Dapper Gentlemen Make for Better Captives
To recap some aspects of my lengthy and rambly context section, visuals and aesthetics can convey a lot about a character and a situation...
thoughtful_fetishist
Jan 3, 202013 min read
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Why Context Matters cont.: Being in the Way and Getting Taken Out of Commission
Since both hard and softcore bondage involve making people into inanimate objects to an extent, another common scenario in softcore male...
thoughtful_fetishist
Jan 3, 202010 min read
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Sticks and Stones may Break my Bones, But Context for Kidnappings Excites Me: Why Context Matters
A big part of why I struggle to be open about my kinks with sexual and romantic partners is the stigma that exists about fetishists. On...
thoughtful_fetishist
Jan 3, 202013 min read
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Playing with Power and Being Packaged for Gay Men: The Transgressive Appeal of Male Submission
An obvious part of bondage is getting to play with power and control. In any kind of bondage context, the topics of domination,...
thoughtful_fetishist
Jan 3, 202014 min read
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Introduction
Since about 2012, I’ve been social networking with other male bondage enthusiasts. Back then, Bound Guys wasn’t only a website for porn,...
thoughtful_fetishist
Jan 3, 20206 min read
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Playing with Yourself: Becoming Two People and Mixing Roles in Self Bondage
When I was nine, I started fourth grade and my older brother started middle school, which meant that he had to take a bus to and from...
thoughtful_fetishist
Dec 14, 20196 min read
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