About This Website
My Story
Hi, I'm Nat. Gag Talk is a little page I put together in 2019 to have one place to host my kinky blog posts. Because of COVID and the limitations of Wix compared to the capabilities of Instagram, I stopped posting on here in favor of the flashiness and easy connectivity of the social media site.
However, Instagram has seemed to be on an anti queer and anti kink tirade and deleted many of my friend's accounts. For some, we were able to blame individual suspensions on pictures and videos being a bit too risque and scantily clad. For others, their content was just queer with no naked bodies or anything too out of the ordinary in sight. My account was a casualty of this crusade. To add to my despair over losing year's worth of photos, videos, and writing about my experiences as a kinkster, my friends, and my thoughts about kink, my account was deleted on the day that the US Supreme Court ruled in favor of queer discrimination as free speech. Yet, we as queers aren't allowed to have our free speech because we're falling deeper into being second-class citizens in this Puritanical country.
Rather than trying to rebuild my Instagram, so it can soon crumble all over again like a Jenga tower with the wrong block coming loose, I decided to return to this website to restore old blog posts and stories I've saved, as well as post new content that wasn't on Instagram. Instagram will now just be a hub to advertise for this website and maintain connections with the people I've met on there because it doesn't feel safe for anything more than that at this point.
My Approach to Male Bondage
In grad school, I studied how drag performance uses common understandings of women and femininity as a tool to emphasize, subvert, and/or challenge gendered dynamics of power, sexuality, etc. When I analyze male bondage, I basically do the same thing, but direct it at performances of masculinity. Instead of subverting masculinity by putting men into drag, putting men into submissiveness via bondage similarly challenges gendered dynamics of power, sexuality, etc. because femininity and bondage both involve vulnerability. Any combination of masculinity and vulnerability is typically a social taboo that I find fascinating to explore. Vulnerability is usually understood as the antithesis to masculinity and when the two things intersect in the mainstream, it gets ridiculed and deemed effeminate, queer, or an otherwise "failure" of masculinity. Beyond the gendered aspect of drag, I also borrow drag's method of reappropriating pop culture in my bondage aesthetic.
I'd describe my bondage style as derived from screencap culture. Specifically, the tradition of screencaps in male bondage culture is the act of saving clips and screenshots of bondage scenes in mainstream media like movies, TV shows, commercials, cartoons, books, comics, etc. Obviously, a lot of mainstream stories and things have scenes where men are kidnapped, tied up, gagged, and placed into some kind of peril. The appeal of these scenes is that the bondage is part of some kind of story, with at least a little character development and higher quality acting, which makes the scenes seem more realistic than a lot of male bondage media. However, mainstream stories hardly focus solely on bondage, mainstream bondage is usually impractical, there aren't many closeups of tied bodies and gagged faces, depictions of kink are usually unflattering of the kink community, etc.
So, in addition to writing about bondage scenes in movies and sharing screencaps, I also like to either reenact mainstream bondage scenes or create original scenes that resemble movie screencaps. I like paying homage to pivotal scenes in movies that were formative to my fetish, as well as known scenes from classic male bondage media, like Bound and Gagged magazine and Capturedguys from the early oughts. I also like following certain tropes from old movies and recognized bondage scenes to create images and videos that look like they could be screencaps, but fit into stories that I've written. With all this, I feel like I try filling the gap between the details that mainstream bondage leaves out and the contexts that a lot of bondage media overlook.